Clean Slate
Friday, March 9
Love is not a movie
I don't understand infidelity or the concept of trying out people like clothes. But just because I don't understand, doesn't mean I automatically think that people who cheat on their partners or people who can just drop a relationship like a hot potato are the most evil people in the world.
I just think they're people. And people have they're own beliefs about themselves, about love, and how the world around them works.
Here are some of my beliefs about love and life, which I try to remember and try to live up to.
Love is not a movie. It's a story that goes on for as long as I live. The last page isn't written until it's the very last page. There's no single climax with music swelling at each dramatic turn of events.
Love is not a montage of eye-candy moments that last for a minute. Love is all about chapters that begin and end for as long as it has to.
I am not the only protagonist in the story of the universe. Everyone is. Therefore, I am not entitled to actions without expecting to pay the consequences. I am not exempt from them no matter how special think I am.
Love does not have ADHD. It's a yes or a no. If you don't know, then it's not love. Period.
Love does not have a shelf life.
Forever is a long time. But forever is only as long as my short time here on earth. Loving someone forever IS the point of true love.
Monogamy is the only kind of relationship there can be between two people who truly love each other. In the grand scheme of things, life is far too short for "dressing room" romances and "what ifs."
It's better to be alone than to jump into a relationship with a "what if" hanging over my head.
Love means my happiness, not just his.
I choose who I fall in love with. My choices reflect how much I value and love myself. Ultimately, if I am not happy with the person I'm with, it is because I am not happy with myself and think I don't truly deserve happiness.
If I am not happy with someone, it means there is a lack of love. It is better to be alone than to be in this kind of a relationship.
If I choose to stay with someone who hurts me over and over, it is not love. It is a self-delusion. It is me hoping that there's love where there's clearly none.
When caught between a rock and a hard place, it is almost always better to be alone than in a codependent relationship.
I am only as good as what I do. If my words are not backed up by my actions, they're worthless.
That said, words are important. Words have power, and must be used wisely.
I am not better than everyone else. Period.
posted by neva, 3:39 PM
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